Be A Best Friend

A couple of weeks ago, someone mentioned that it seems like Parker and I are always having fun and that "it's almost like we're best friends". I had to laugh when I heard this because honestly, that is exactly what it is.

Parker is my best friend, and I am his.

Marriage is a funny thing. You can go into it with expectations, but you really have no idea what it's going to be like until you're thrown into the adventure. Marriage has been idealized by so many, myself included. I have been told it seems like Parker and I have the perfect marriage, and that's so funny to me. What constitutes the perfect marriage? A home-cooked meal on the table every night? Nope, I have literally served Parker macaroni and cheese with cut-up hotdogs before. Sex every night? Ha! Full time jobs, traveling, etc. make that expectation unrealistic. Always agreeing on everything? Oh please, we argue about the weather. The point is, at the end of the day it's a relationship. We argue, we disagree, I cry, he gets frustrated, but good grief we have a blast! The good parts outweigh the hard parts in every way.

We love our perfectly imperfect relationship.

After all is said and done, if we weren't truly best friends, this just wouldn't work. To me, marriage is about hanging out at home making up the words to songs. Marriage is late night pillow talks that cause you to wake up exhausted, but that neither of you would replace for that extra 1-2 hours of sleep. Marriage is praying together and watching the other one grow closer to God. Marriage is falling more and more in love with your best friend every single day. 

It's not always easy, but it's always worth it. I think the great thing about marriage is there is no set way to do it. You have to figure out what works for you as a couple. How you communicate, how you disagree, how you get through the tough times- there is no standard. We aren't always prepared for what life throws at us, but there is no one I would rather have by my side as we figure out this crazy adventure together.